Rambling thoughts of today…
Today I’m not having a good day.
Well here are my ramblings as I’ve chewed over thinking about stuff…
Sensei told me once that friends were for ‘getting us through life without all the drama’. Maybe that’s how we tell our friends - they are rocks in life that see all our flaws and misdirections but still think we’re brilliant and when the world falls down point out the silver lining and occasionally tell us to get off our asses.
We can count on them, we feel an easy quality around them because we know they won’t betray us. When we start feeling nervous around them, unsure, unsteady and distrustful - that’s a sign from your soul that possibly all is not what it seems. (Or you’ve flat out been played.)
Sometimes when we focus on something very hard it grows in size and the challenge becomes overwhelming and when looked at with fear seems daunting and completely hopeless — but as I have said many times through the lens of love good outcomes don’t only seem possible but very likely.
How does a person get to that point of view though? I suppose I like to do what I love, and be with people I like and think upon pleasant things. And maybe that gives me a pretty good filter for making decisions (I hope).
I see the negative and thinking upon as costing me, time on this planet, soul dollars, happy moments I could have been having instead. I think — how much do I want to pay for this? Usually it’s not worth any cost at all, other times I ponder it - like today - for the lesson, what can I learn from this that will make me a better person before I move on recklessly chasing my photographs. Pursuing the aesthetic, appreciating beauty and exploring.
It’s best not to over complicate simple ideas.
People make too many decisions out of pain or fear of pain. Decisions like not getting close to someone they love, or not telling the people around them that they care. Sooner or later we all die, is it worth I wonder not telling people? We build so many walls - how can people help one another and be there for each other with a wall between?
People should practice simple honesty. At least - at the very least - with themselves.
People in your life make a bid for affection. They might want a hug or need time or want to talk. When you turn away from that bid they rarely make the bid again and they form their opinion of you from what you cannot and choose not to give. They don’t see it as — well maybe later they will. They eventually know with a certainty you choose to NOT love and whether you like it or not, they make you own that choice you made and usually hate you for it. (Now whether they allow themselves to own that emotion or admit it…but it is what it is - and paint it a different color it is still the same.)
Love is simple, it’s a simple beautiful harmonic energy. Purposefully with holding it from people who you love and who love you is a form of control, a safe guard from getting hurt, maybe an easy way out — and there are a million excuses to justify almost anything or even turn it around to the other persons fault. “Well you should have known that because…” “Well why didn’t you?” etc. etc.
At the end though - you made a choice to embrace emptiness, pain, and the void rather than love that other person. Usually they aren’t too understanding about that.
I’ve been there - and it’s pretty hard to understand why, why would someone rather be alone in misery then reach out and love? How hard is it to say thank you once in awhile? How excruciating is it to take a moment to care?
Sort of like a fellow I dated awhile back, I didn’t even stop to cry or look sad as I walked out the door - him rambling off excuses - the last I heard as I drove away was, “well you knew I was messed up!” I hate wasting time, life is short.
Situations
As long as you are being positive in a situation - any situation, you are in charge of it. The second you turn it into a double negative, whoever or whatever officially owns you, because your entire focus, energy and spirit now belongs to them.
In 2004 I had a particularly unscrupulous client who liked to shout in my face. I took the matter to Sensei who told me that it was her way of controlling my focus. With my focus and energy committed fully to her - she stayed in charge of me.
Finally I will leave with a couple of quotes, one is from a fellow who used to read my blog and send me comments;
You are not yet emotionally available; you still carry an intensely flaming torch in your soul for your Wolf. For me that is completely understandable as I know once part of our souls are fully given to another, neither you nor I will ever get all of it back. It was a gift, and with that person it will stay.
My last chat with the Wolf here is what I told him;
When you find that strength to love and care for another person outside of yourself, it enables you to love yourself; And someday you’ll learn to sacrifice for another person outside of your self - then you will be set free from the prison you’ve locked yourself in. 3-08
Above all though - you must love yourself first so that you do not allow another person to make themselves a bit more powerful by taking your attention, by not returning your bids of affection, and by taking advantage of your love and kindness. There are, in all things consequences.








































